30 Little Ways to Show Your Kids You Love Them Every Day

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Some days it seems like you’re just holding everything together—rushing to get the kids to school on time, rushing to get to work, rushing home to cook dinner, then rushing through the bath and bedtime routine. That’s just the way life goes sometimes. If you’re lacking in time (like most parents are) but want to show your child how much you love them, here are 30 little ways that can be incorporated into your day with almost zero effort.

1. Give your child kisses when they wake up.

2. Read an extra book before bedtime.

3. If you get home too late to read books at night, read a book at breakfast instead.

4. If your child can read, put a note in their lunch box that says, “Have fun today! Love you!”

5. Give big hugs and kisses before you leave.

6. Ask what their favorite part of the day was.

7. Ask what the hardest part of the day was, too.

8. When your child is desperate for your attention, drop what you’re doing and give it to them.

9. Look them in the eyes.

10. Stay in their room just a few minutes longer than usual at bedtime.

11. Notice something they’ve done right: “Thank you for putting your toys away, I really appreciate it.”

12. Cook together—let your child help you make dinner or bake together.

13. No matter how bad your day was or how annoyed you are at your kid, never go to bed angry or let your child go to bed feeling that you’re angry with them.

14. Compliment your child on something they do: “I really love listening to you sing. You sing so beautifully.”

15. Try to get ready ahead of your schedule so you can cut out the “hurry ups” and let your kid take their own time getting in the car or walking down the street (maybe letting them pick a few flowers along the way).

16. Really listen to what your child is saying without interrupting.

17. Make your child feel like their opinion matters by asking what they think.

18. Proudly display their artwork at home.

19. Don’t talk about them, especially their flaws, in front of them.

20. After you have an argument, give them a big hug and tell them it’s okay.

21. Follow through on any promises you make.

22. Play with your child, even if it’s just for a few minutes.

23. Say “yes” instead of no.

24. Give your child your full attention when you’re together.

25. Think of a fun activity to do together on the weekend, even if it’s something as simple as going to a new playground.

26. Smile at your child.

27. Be the last to let go of hugs.

28. Ask to hold their hand.

29. Try to see their point of view.

30. Tell them you love them. Every single day.

HARVARD THINKS IT’S FOUND THE NEXT EINSTEIN — AND SHE’S 23

HARVARD THINKS IT’S FOUND THE NEXT EINSTEIN — AND SHE’S 23

Harvard University believes the world’s next Einstein is among us — and she’s a millennial.

At age 23, Sabrina Gonzalez Pasterski is already one of the most well-known and accomplished physicists in the U.S.

The Cuban-American Chicago native graduated from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in just three years with a 5.0-grade point average, the highest possible, and is currently a Ph.D. candidate at Harvard with full academic freedom — meaning she can pursue her own study on her own terms without staff interference.

Pasterski first attracted the attention of the scientific and academic community after single-handedly building her own single-engine airplane in 2008, at age 14, and documenting the process on YouTube.

MIT professors Allen Haggerty and Earll Murman saw the video and were astonished. “Our mouths were hanging open after we looked at it,” Haggerty recalls. “Her potential is off the charts.”

At age 16, she piloted the aircraft herself over Lake Michigan, becoming the youngest person ever to fly their own plane.

“I couldn’t believe it,” recalls Peggy Udden, an executive secretary at MIT. “Not only because she was so young, but a girl.”

Pasterski had first flown a plane at age 9, an experience she casually relayed to a teacher at her public high school, the Illinois Mathematics and Science Academy in Aurora. The teacher replied: “That’s nice, but what have you done lately?”

“That’s become my mantra ever since,” Pasterski told the Chicago Tribune in a 2016 interview. “That’s nice, but what have you done lately?”

An only child, Pasterski admits she’s not on social media and, unlike the majority of her peers, has never had a boyfriend, smoked a cigarette, or drunk an alcoholic beverage. Instead, she spends her free time exploring the concepts of quantum gravity, black holes, and spacetime, the mathematical model that combines space and time into a single continuum.

Among the papers she’s published, which are listed along with other accomplishments on her website, PhysicsGirl.com: “Semiclassical Virasoro Symmetry of the Quantum Gravity S-Matrix,” “Gaussian Measures and the QM Oscillator,” and “Low’s Subleading Soft Theorem as a Symmetry of QED.”

Her work in the physics community has led to standing job offers from Amazon entrepreneur Jeff Bezos, aerospace manufacturer Blue Origin, and NASA, among others.

Though Pasterski herself is a standout, her interest is part of a larger trend of millennials — especially women — graduating with degrees in physics.

In 1999, the number of physics graduates was at its lowest point in four decades. However, according to the American Institute of Physics, 8,081 bachelor’s degrees in physics were awarded in 2015—the highest number ever recorded. Some theorize the increase is a direct result of more women enrolling in and staying with physics as a major.

“Be optimistic about what you believe you can do,” Pasterski told Marie Claire earlier this year. “When you’re little, you say a lot of things about what you’ll do or be when you’re older—I think it’s important not to lose sight of those dreams.”

Worry less about children’s screen use, parents told

Children looking at a tablet at night

There is little evidence screen use for children is harmful in itself, guidance from leading paediatricians says.

Parents should worry less as long as they have gone through a checklist on the effect of screen time on their child, it says.

While the guidance avoids setting screen time limits, it recommends not using them in the hour before bedtime.

Experts say it is important that the use of devices does not replace sleep, exercising and time with family.

It was informed by a review of evidence published at the same time in the BMJ Open medical journal, and follows a debate around whether youngsters should have time on devices restricted.

Most of the evidence in the review was based on television screen time, but also included other screen use, such as phones and computers.

Meanwhile, a separate study has found that girls are twice as likely to show signs of depressive symptoms linked to social media use at age 14 compared with boys.

‘No evidence of being toxic’

The Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health (RCPCH), which oversees the training of specialists in child medicine, has produced the guidance for under-18s.

  • Tips on how to limit excessive screen time
  • Reality Check: Why did child screen advice not go further?

It said there was no good evidence that time in front of a screen is “toxic” to health, as is sometimes claimed.

The review of evidence found associations between higher screen use and obesity and depression.

But the college looked at this and said it was not clear from the evidence if higher screen use was causing these problems or if people with these issues were more likely to spend more time on screens.

The review was carried out by experts at University College London, including RCPCH president Prof Russell Viner.

The college said it was not setting time limits for children because there was not enough evidence that screen time was harmful to child health at any age.

Instead, it has published a series of questions to help families make decisions about their screen time use:

  • Is your family’s screen time under control?
  • Does screen use interfere with what your family want to do?
  • Does screen use interfere with sleep?
  • Are you able to control snacking during screen time?

Dr Max Davie, officer for health promotion for the RCPCH, said phones, computers and tablets were a “great way to explore the world”, but parents were often made to feel that there was something “indefinably wrong” about them.

He said: “We want to cut through that and say ‘actually if you’re doing OK and you’ve answered these questions of yourselves and you’re happy, get on and live your life and stop worrying’.

“But if there are problems and you’re having difficulties, screen time can be a contributing factor.”

  • How much screen time is ‘too much’?
  • Facebook ‘no place’ for young children
  • Screen use linked to children’s cognition

Dr Russell Viner, president of the RCPCH, told BBC Radio 4’s Today programme “screens are part of modern life”, adding: “The genie is out of the bottle – we cannot put it back.”

He said: “We need to stick to advising parents to do what they do well, which is to balance the risks and benefits.

“One size doesn’t fit all, parents need to think about what’s useful and helpful for their child.”

Parents should consider their own use of screens, if screen time is controlled in their family, and if excessive use is affecting their child’s development and everyday life, he added.


What do parents say?

Boy looking at phone under cover

A number of parents have been in touch with the BBC to say they disagree with the guidance and feel it does not go far enough.

“There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that screen time is damaging school performance and sports performance and dangerously addictive,” says Andy, whose son is 14.

Andy said he had restricted his son’s screen time to Friday after school and Saturday, and, despite some “grumbling”, there had been an improvement in school performance.

For tips on how to limit excessive screen time, click here.


‘Grey area’

The recommendation that children should not use the devices in the hour before bedtime comes because of evidence that they can harm sleep.

The devices stimulate the brain, and the blue light produced by them can disrupt the body’s secretion of the sleep hormone melatonin.

While there are night modes on many phones, computers and tablets, there is no evidence these are effective, the college said.

Overall, it found the effect of screen time on children’s health was small when considered next to other factors like sleep, physical activity, eating, bullying and poverty.

It said there was a lack of evidence that screen time is beneficial for health or wellbeing.

Its guidance recommends that families negotiate screen time limits with their children based on individual needs and how much it impacts on sleep, as well as physical and social activities.

For infants and younger children, this will involve parents deciding what content they watch and for how long they use the devices.

As children get older, there should be a move towards them having autonomy over screen use, but this should be gradual and under the guidance of an adult, the college said.

Dr Davie added: “When it comes to screen time I think it is important to encourage parents to do what is right by their family.

“However, we know this is a grey area and parents want support, and that’s why we have produced this guide.

“We suggest that age-appropriate boundaries are established, negotiated by parent and child, that everyone in the family understands.”

The college called for better quality research to understand more about how the content on devices, and the context in which they are used, affects health outcomes.

Tips for parents:

A boy on his phone at the dinner table

  • Mealtimes can be good opportunities for screen-free zones
  • If children’s screen time use seems out of control, parents should consider intervening
  • Parents should think about their own screen use, including whether they use devices unconsciously too often
  • Younger children need face to face social interaction and screens are no substitute for this

(https://www.bbc.com/news/health-46749232)

 

5 tips to survive christmas with kids

Let’s face it, Christmas can be pretty overwhelming for grown-ups and we’ve had years of experience. Children haven’t and their young minds can struggle to process the endless parade of festivities, as fun as they are. No wonder then they can get so silly during the silly season.

Our resident expert in toddlers, Benevolent Society Childcare Manager Denielle Jans shares her advice with Kinderling Conversation for a calmer, less chaotic Christmas. Here’s the tips we found invaluable:

1. Understand Christmas from your child’s point of view

As Denielle points out, the build-up to Christmas for kids is both long and immense, especially given Christmas fever starts in the shops from late October these days. “You have to remember just going to the shops, there’s music, there’s Christmas lights flashing, there’s loads more people around. So there’s a ramp-up of energy that can be exhausting for children in itself (because) all their senses are firing all the time.”

2. Communicate openly about what’s happening

When it comes to celebrations, Denielle advises clueing your kids up in advance (if they’re old enough, like three and up). “Just give them a heads up, like ‘Christmas is going to be a really busy day and we’ve got lots of people we’re visiting’. Explain who they are, and that those people will have some special things for them because they love them. That gives them context and they can then predict what’s going to happen.”

As for presents, she adds: “If there’s going to be other children, put that into the mix too – use their names and say who they are and what their connection is to them too – and explain they’ might probably get presents too, which are different to yours. And that you might love what they get, but it’s important to remember it’s their present.

3. It’s asking a lot to expect toddlers to share presents

We all know the Christmas spirit is all about sharing, but us adults have had plenty of time to get used to the idea. Young children, who’ve been primed on talk of presents and Santa for weeks, aren’t going to be as rational and it’s unfair to expect them to be.

Says Denielle: “Children become really passionate about things. Adults do too. If you had just been given a new car and your friend, who probably doesn’t have a licence, says ‘let me take it for a spin!’ you’re probably not going to want to share. So for a child who’s just starting to explore what their emotions feel like, it’s (a big ask). It’s such an early learning stage so it’s all about support.”

4. Check in with them throughout the day

When the big day arrives, it’s vital to keep an eye on your little Christmas elf and how they’re faring. According to Denielle, talking openly about what you both might be feeling can really help. “Ask ‘hey, how you going? It’s been a busy morning!’ Call it for what it is, or “Gosh, we were up early this morning!” or “I’m feeling a little bit floppy right now, do you wanna come sit on the couch with me for a bit?”

5. Build in breaks where possible

After Christmas lunch, it’s almost custom to collapse on the couch or in front of the TV, but it’s remember much harder for children to come down from the huge high of wrapping-ripping and a tree-full of new toys. Ensure you spend time with them one-on-one to release some of the pressure.

“Children might need someone to help them come down,” says Denielle. “Say ‘You seem a bit quiet – did you want to have a little snuggle or read a book together?’ and you’ll see how they’re tracking. Then they can reassess and reset to start again for the afternoon or the next session.”

(https://www.kinderling.com.au/news/how-to-survive-the-christmas-silly-season-with-kids)

The invisible experiences of first-time Generation X mothers

The number of first-time mothers aged 40-plus around the globe is growing. Creating a support system for these mums is not merely ethical – it’s good for society and the economy, too.

The month after she turned 40, Jenny Glancy-Potter gave birth to twins. Their births marked the end of an excruciating struggle to become a mother, and the joyous beginning of a new life stage. Motherhood, though, had come far later than Glancy-Potter had ever imagined.

“In a lot of ways, I have less energy than I did when I was younger,” she says. “But in terms of my outlook, I think this is a beautiful time to become a mum. I’ve got a lot more patience, I’m a lot wiser, and I’ve done so much in my life.” She would know by now – her children have since turned five.

The number of women beginning families in their 40s and older is rising, while the number who do so in their 20s and 30s declines

Glancy-Potter, now aged 45, from Lancashire in the UK, is part of a growing community of Generation X women around the world for whom motherhood has begun at 40-plus.

The number of women beginning families in their 40s and older is rising, while the number who do so in their 20s and 30s declines. In the UK, the pregnancy rate is falling for all age groups – except for the over-40s. In 2016, the conception rate among women of 40 and above grew by 2% on the previous year, and it has more than doubled throughout the previous 25 years.

Birth patterns are the same in the US, where in 2017 the birth rate was its lowest for 30 years, but it nevertheless rose for women over 40, who are having more children than ever.

Caring for two generations

Starting a family after 40 brings a unique set of opportunities and challenges.

Forty-three-year-old Bhavna Thakur, who has a one-year-old daughter, also understands what is it like to be the “oldest mother in the toddler park”.

(Credit: Bhavna Thakur)Bhavna Thakur, 43, lives with her husband and one-year-old daughter in Mumbai. She says she is often the “oldest mother in the toddler park” (Credit: Bhavna Thakur)

After the birth of her child, Thakur returned to her full-time job in Mumbai, where she works for an investment firm as a managing director. She has found that having a child in her 40s meant she had time to work her way up to a senior position.

“Because I’m senior enough I can be master of my own time, whereas if I was junior there would be someone else dictating where I had to be and when. I’ve had a lot of flexibility to go home early and work from home when I need to.”

Although she has found it challenging not being able to travel as much, she has a very understanding manager, she says. “My boss told me, ‘This is a 10-year-game, it’s a marathon not a sprint, you’ll get back to doing what you can do’.”

Thakur has encountered a different, unexpected struggle as a Gen-X mum. It is difficult, she says, to balance the three most time-intensive obligations in her life: care for two generations of family and cultivating a career.

I’m split between my mother and my daughter, and right now, my daughter is more dependent on me – Bhavna Thakur

“Because we are old parents, our parents are now quite old. They have ailments and issues and they need looking after as well,” she says. “My parents live in Delhi, and I’m not able to go and spend as much time as I would like because I have a small child to take care of. I’m split between my mother and my daughter, and right now, my daughter is more dependent on me.”

Thakur’s struggle is indicative of a broader worldwide juggling act. Many women who start families in their 40s the world over find themselves spread between caring for two generations at once.

Some companies in New Zealand and the UK are trialling innovative measures, such as the four-day working week at full-time pay, which have the potential to make home-life and work-life balance more sustainable. Although some have proven successful, these programmes are the exception, and far from becoming the norm.

A fork in the road

In general, a mother’s decision to return to work after childbirth is a difficult one with many considerations – especially financial ones. The UK has the most expensive childcare in the world, unlike Sweden where it is heavily subsidised. These costs have implications for any first-time mother, regardless of age.

Glancy-Potter believes the financial strain of childcare is particularly acute for women in their 40s, many of whom cannot rely on grandparents to help.

After discovering the prohibitively expensive costs of childcare, Jenny Glancy-Potter was not able to return to work after having twins at 40 (Credit: Jenny Glancy-Potter)

“Childcare is more pertinent to older mothers because it tends to be that our family are older as well. My mum has helped out an awful lot, but by the time I had my children, she was already in her 70s. Had I had my kids in my 20s, my husband and I probably could have relied less on formal paid childcare.”

There is little-to-no formal support from state programmes to ensure mothers like Glancy-Potter can afford childcare and return to work again. She was not able to make the numbers of keeping her job add up; the costs of childcare would have absorbed her entire salary.

But measures that make it easier for the growing population of Generation X mothers to continue working will benefit the economy, says Myra Strober, professor emerita of education and economics at Stanford’s Graduate School of Education and Graduate School of Business. There is no country that has gotten the practice quite right yet.

Strober says if that mothers in particular choose to sacrifice their career, their inability to continue working has a larger impact on the national income than if younger and less experienced, lower-paid workers leave the workforce. Women aged 40 and older are generally “more educated and have positions of greater responsibility and higher earnings than younger women”.

“Making sure that experienced women in their forties can return to work and continue to be productive in the labour force is not only socially progressive,” she says, “it is also economically prudent.”

I get to see life all over again’

While attitudes toward working mothers in general slowly change, social assumptions about older mothers do persist. Some women who begin families in their 40s can find themselves cast in the isolating role of “older mother”.

Gewanda Parker, 49, lives with her two daughters, aged seven months and three years, in the US state of Florida. When she takes her daughters out, she is often addressed as their grandmother or aunt, while other, younger women are assumed to be mothers.

(Credit: Gewanda Parker)

49-year-old Gewanda Parker lives with two daughters, aged three and seven months. She says she often gets mistaken for their grandmother or aunt (Credit: Gewanda Parker)

Perhaps as a result, Parker has found herself increasingly concerned with her appearance, always making sure she is well-put together, smartly dressed and with perfect hair and make-up. Whereas other new mothers might be forgiven for making their looks less of a priority, Parker feels she is working harder to combat any assumptions outside observers might make about her age based on what she looks like. “I find myself subconsciously making sure that my appearance is the best it can be – I’m always thinking, ‘I don’t want to create a situation where my child feels strange about it’.”

Yes, I may be older, but the things I am doing with my kids are keeping me young – Gewanda Parker

The truth is that Parker does not feel like an older mother. Having children at her age is, she says, “the most rewarding and refreshing thing. I get to see life all over again as exciting and fun. Yes, I may be older, but the things I am doing with my kids are keeping me young.”

Global societal structures and stereotypes may not be keeping up with the pace of reality, but change will come, Parker says. “Even if society is not willing, there is a demand for society to support older mothers.” As first-time Gen X mothers like her become more common, she says that society bears the responsibility to become more accepting and make adjustments.

“We have to change the common language around what a mother looks like, around the image we have of motherhood,” she says.

“We have to learn how to be inclusive without being awkward, and we have to learn how to refrain from judging and stereotyping, instead approaching the subject [of older mothers] with an open mind.”

(http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20181112-the-invisible-experiences-of-first-time-generation-x-mothers)

The fourth trimester

What is the “fourth trimester”?

The fourth trimester, a period described by expert Dr. Harvey Karp as the first three months of a baby’s life, is a time when a newborn is adjusting to life outside of the womb. It’s filled with a tremendous amount of changes and development for the baby, and is becoming more and more recognized as an important phase of a little one’s early days.

You probably thought you were finished with trimesters when you had your baby. But the word “trimester” can also be used to describe the first three months after birth, from day one to the day your baby turns 3 months old.

In the fourth trimester, your tiny daughter or son has just moved from the familiar comfort and noises of your warm, dark womb to a bright environment full of unsettling new sights, sounds, smells, and sensations, as well as shifting temperatures.

This period of adjustment to the world outside your womb is a time of enormous change and development. There’s so much for your little one to get started on, from refining and developing all her senses and controlling her reflexes to learning how to respond to you and your partner .

A huge transition for your new baby

Newborns have only their instincts and reflexes to control their behavior and movement. Some of their senses are still developing, and they have to start learning to interpret the sensory information that’s flooding in.

So lets quickly compare the two different ‘worlds’ your baby has lived in:

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Pretty different huh? On top of this the big thing to understand is that in utero the baby’s world was constant, each day was the same, the stimulation didn’t change, but now they are born each day is different – ever changing, ever stimulating!

They can see, but their vision is blurred.

They can hear, but they can’t yet understand the meaning of the sounds they’re hearing.

They can feel, but the reassuring and snug comfort of the womb has been replaced by disconcerting open space.

Skin to Skin Contact

Such a brilliant baby calmer! Being in contact with your warm, naturally (un)scented, skin is heaven for a baby, it helps to stabilise their body temperature, heart rate and stress hormones and stimulates the release of oxytocin – the love and bonding hormone – in you both. Topless cuddles, shared baths, baby massage and bedsharing are all great skin to skin experiences for your baby and you.

Bed-Sharing

Sharing a bed with your baby is an amazing way of getting more sleep for everyone, babies are generally much calmer and sleep more easily if they sleep with you in your bed, yet it is such a taboo topic and although 60% of parents will share a bed with their baby at some point it’s a subject that makes society very uncomfortable, but…it is an *amazing* baby calmer!

Swaddling

Imagine how snug your baby was at the very end of your pregnancy inside of you – now imagine how strange it must feel to them after they have been born and have so much space around them! The absolutely best thing you can do is to envelop your baby in your arms, but for times when you don’t want to or indeed can’t then swaddling is an option. Swaddling is becoming increasingly popular, however there are important safety guidelines to be followed if you choose to swaddle your baby, if you are breastfeeding please make sure feeding is established before swaddling and take care not to miss your baby’s hunger cues if you are feeding on demand:

  •  Never swaddle over your baby’s head or near his face
  • Never swaddle your baby if he is ill or has a fever
  • Make sure your baby does not overheat and only swaddle with a breathable/thin fabric
  • Only swaddle your baby until he can roll over**
  • Always place your baby to sleep on his back
  • Do not swaddle tightly across your baby’s chest
  • Do not swaddle tightly around your baby’s hips and legs, his legs should be free to “froggy up” into a typical newborn position.
  • Lastly start to swaddle as soon as possible, do not swaddle a 3 month old baby if he has not been swaddled before.

** The American Academy of Paediatrics recommends swaddling for babies 0-14wks.

Babywearing

Wearing your baby in a sling is one of the ultimate ways to keep them calm and happy. It increases the time a baby spends in a state of “quiet alertness” – a time of contentment when they learn the most. When a baby is in utero they spend 100% of their time in physical contact with us – yet the moment they are born this is estimated to drop to only 40%! Babywearing also means 2 free hands!

Choose your sling carefully. A good sling will be easy to use and will support both yours and your baby’s spine whilst not placing any pressure on your baby’s growing hips – newborns should always be carried facing inwards with a “frog leg” pose, not a crotch dangle pose so commonly used by commercial baby carriers. Also seek to carry in an ‘in arms’ position – i.e: how your baby would be held if you were holding them! This great picture from JePorteMonBebe highlights this newborn hold position perfectly.

Babywearing is a great way for dads to bond with babies!

It is quite common for a baby to cry once placed in a sling, this does not mean that they hate the sling – it just means that you need to move, so get dancing! As with swaddling,babywearing is becoming increasingly popular, however there are important safety guidelines to be followed, the TICKS acronym below neatly sums them all up:

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Position

The “tiger in the tree” position below, taken from baby yoga, is often magical, stopping a crying baby in an instant!

Noise
Babies love sound, but for many not the sound you might think. For many babies a hoover is much more calming to a baby than a lullaby. A special white noise CD, such as THIS,  can be played on loop whilst your baby sleeps to help keep them calm.

Feed

If your baby is hungry nothing will calm him, so watch for his hunger cues. Feeding is always better if it is baby led, not led by a routine – whether you are breast or bottle feeding. Remember as well that your baby may not always be hungry for a full feed, they may want a quick drink, a quick snack or just some comfort sucking. Babies also find sucking the ultimate relaxation and comfort tool. Sucking helps a baby’s skull bones to return to their normal position after birth as well as providing them with comfort and security. If you are not breastfeeding you might find your baby will relax when given a dummy/pacifier.

Deep Bathing

The womb is a wet, warm place. The world as we know it is dry and cold! Sometimes a nice deep, warm bath can stop a baby’s tears in seconds – even better if mummy or daddy goes in the big bath with baby too as skin to skin contact is a wonderful baby calmer.

Outside

If all else fails many babies stop crying the minute they hit the open air – I’m not sure if this is because we are usually moving (e.g.: walking over cobbles with the buggy/ bouncing in a sling and the drone and movement of a car) or because of the change in air – but it works!

Your baby’s brain is well developed at birth, but it’s far from mature. It’s like a sponge, soaking up everything that happens. The more the brain is stimulated at this stage, the more synapses (connections) will form. (Synapses are the pathways between brain cells that enable us to think.)

At some point in the fourth trimester, you’ll probably notice your baby:

  • Breathing more steadily, startling less, and developing more controlled movements.
  • Settling into more consistent sleep and feeding patterns.
  • Learning to self-soothe.
  • Interacting with family and friends, objects, or music with greater attention and for longer periods of time.

By the end of your baby’s fourth trimester, you will have seen a remarkable physical, mental, and social transformation take place.

(https://www.babycenter.com/0_the-fourth-trimester-your-babys-first-three-months_10415518.bc  and

https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2012/11/04/the-fourth-trimester-aka-why-your-newborn-baby-is-only-happy-in-your-arms/)

Spinning babies- how does it work?

Gail showing fetal position is not random

Over 35 years with birth including 20 years as a homebirth midwife, Gail now consults and goes out on midnight runs to long labors or breech births to help the determined parents served by her midwifery and medical colleagues. Back in the day, Gail was kept busy organizing doula program development in hospitals and community non-profits in Minneapolis/St. Paul while training doulas with DONA International approval status. Spinning Babies, Belly Mapping, Resolving Shoulder Dystocia and now Breech Basics are the unique offerings from Gail Tully.

Gail Tully created the Spinning Babies® Three Principles to guide birth preparation and choose techniques to prioritize body balancing before the typical strategies of getting up and moving in labor.

1. Balance

2. Gravity

3. Movement

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The Spinning Babies Approach to Birth

We teach physiological release rather than the rather mechanical assumption that birth is a passenger powering through the pelvis (The old 3Ps paradigm). The reason we are replacing the 3 Ps The release of the baby can be as natural as the release of hormones. Self-care and specific body work restores the balance and makes room for the baby. Then baby can put themselves into the best position possible for childbirth.

Spinning Babies sees past both extremes in childbirth today. Neither the interventions of force or mistakenly giving more time in cases where the baby is actually stuck have offered truly empowering solutions.

This approach gives a comprehensive plan for pregnancy preparation and labor activities to ease birth. They can be used with any childbirth method or none at all. Spinning Babies approach is good in any childbirth setting, home, hospital and independent birth center.

My belief is that the maternal positioning of Optimal Foetal Positioning® works more spontaneously when we have balance in the pelvis (including ligaments, fascia and muscles with the pelvis).

Balance first.

In a long or painful labor, or when baby seems not to fit, we must be smart about finding which level of the pelvis the baby’s leading part (head or bottom) is waiting or pressing upon.

By noting fetal position and/or the station of fetal descent, a system of protocols (series of activities) can be matched to help mother and baby. So, first, we balance and then we pick maternal positions to  Address the muscles and other “soft” tissues and match the technique to open the diameter of pelvic level (pelvic station) where baby’s head is staying in a non-progressing labor.

Fetal position shares a stage with several leading actors, such as Flexion, Body Balance, and, don’t forget the importance of the Parasympathetics in the ease of birth.

Modern lifestyles need more than maternal positioning to aid fetal positioning. Body balancing is necessary and so is a unique paradigm to put Balance before Force in the minds of care providers and parents alike.

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